Paula Whipple Ahders SANTA MONICA, CALIFORNIA Paula Whipple Ahders, a devoted mother, wife, and grandmother whose love for children reached far beyond her own family, passed away on Saturday, October 10, 2026, in Santa Monica, California. She was 79. Paula was born on September 10, 1947, in Tyler, Texas as Paula Annette Whipple, to Jack and Olive Whipple. After graduating from Robert E. Lee High School, she completed the Hermann Hospital School of Radiologic Technology in Houston in 1967 and went to work as an X - ray technician for a Houston orthopedic surgeon. In 1969 she earned her wings as an American Airlines flight attendant, flying out of New York, until a young Odessa lawyer named Ruff Ahders won her affection and brought her back down to earth. They married on November 28, 1970, and Paula moved to Odessa, where they welcomed their son, Chase, and soon after, their daughter, London. Asked once to describe her job and title, Paula answered simply: "Wife, mother and advocate for all children." Friends called this a typical understatement. As her children grew, she and Ruff worked hard to make their home a safe and welcoming place for all of their friends. While their grocery bill was often high, the joy they got from seeing 10 or more boys and girls sitting in their kitchen eating and laughing was worth every penny. The power of that simple act was evidenced by the relationship Paula carried with so many of those same kids who stayed in her life all the way to the end. She will be missed. It was as a CASA volunteer that Paula found her life's calling. Seeing how often the system hurt abused children further, she set out to change it, and in 1993 she founded Harmony Home Children's Advocacy Center, the first in the Permian Basin: a safe, child - friendly place where a child would tell their story once, to people trained to listen and take action. Judge Joe Connally once observed that when Paula called, everyone knew "no" was not an acceptable answer. Harmony Home now spans seven counties and serves over 600 children each year on average. It was her pride and joy. Her vision for helping children was expansive. Paula helped found Children's Advocacy Centers of Texas and served two terms as its president, helping grow the network to more than fifty centers across the state. She was elected to the Ector County Independent School District Board of Trustees, where she served as president, vice president, and secretary. She also served on the Ector County Child Death Review Team and the boards of CASA, High Sky Children's Ranch, and the Abused Children's Shelter, and was a volunteer with Hospice, the Heritage of Odessa Foundation, the Oil Barons of the American Cancer Society, the Midland - Odessa Symphony Guild, and the Ellen Noel Art Museum. She was a member of First United Methodist Church, and later, The Bridge Church. Her work and dedication earned her the Hutton Humanitarian Award, the Liberty Bell Award, the Community Statesman Humanitarian Award, the Friends of Education award, the Texas Department of Protective and Regulatory Services Outstanding Volunteer award, and the Children's Advocacy Centers of Texas Team Excellence Award. True to form, she brushed off the praise: "I'm not doing anything that anyone else couldn't do." Away from her causes, Paula loved golf, travel, family and friends. She was a tough West Texas lady who was proud of her husband and proud of her children. While the last few years were tough, the road to get there was incredible. Odessa was Paula's home for more than five decades. In January 2026, she moved to Pacific Palisades, California to be near her children and grandchildren, and she spent her final months surrounded by family. Paula was preceded in death by her husband of nearly 39 years, William "Ruff" Ahders, and her parents, Jack and Olive Whipple. She is survived by her son, Chase Ahders, and his wife, Erin, and their children, William Scott ("Liam"), Nolan Ruff, Wyatt Bray, and Hagen Miranda Leigh; her daughter, London Hobin, and her husband, Bill Hobin, and their children, William Hunter ("Will"), Bennett Merrill ("Ben"), Charlotte Danielle, Cate Bailey, Hutch Warren, and Caroline Chase. She is also survived by her brother, Richard Whipple, and his wife, Laura, of Midland. A celebration of life will be held in Odessa in the spring. In lieu of flowers, the family requests that memorials be made to Harmony Home Children's Advocacy Center of Odessa.
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